When marriage happens, couples usually relax and reduce or stop doing those things that made them fall head over heels with one another, thereby feeling like after all they both signed the forever deal. This mindset is a very dangerous one and has destroyed once happy relationships. After the honeymoon phase of the marriage is over, couples begin to see each others true colors and start taking each other for granted.
Most times when couples relax in their duties to each other, one of them usually feels the disappointment the most and if care is not taken, their relationship can spiral out of control whereby one or both starts looking outside for what is lost in the relationship, little wonder so many married people too get involved in some kind of extra marital relationships with the opposite sex.
Whenever a partner complains persistently about something the other is doing, the culprit should take note and try to do something about it before it’s too late. Often times couples fail to listen and act promptly to address the issue being complained about until it is literarily too late. Couples should however learn to set their egos aside and ensure that their relationship is working fine. They shouldn’t imagine that the forever deal is automatic because it’s really not. The ‘forever deal’ is a decision; a decision borne out of commitment and solidarity between the two and these can only exist when the two are willing to respect and honour each other no matter what.
That your husband or wife has being married to you for 10 years doesn’t guarantee the ‘forever deal’. Ironically most couples who end up divorced have actually been married for several decades that you may wonder why.
Start taking your spouse as a major priority. Never take them for granted for it is a privilege you are a part of their life and they a part of yours. They may not be perfect but they definitely have great qualities that makes them unique, and for that they are a blessing, learn to appreciate them and show them how much you love themu and see how much love and care you get in return.
Peach & Pear Counsel